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Yours, Mine and Ours

MPA Rating: PG-Rating (MPA) for mild crude humor.

Reviewed by: Lacey Mical (Callahan) Walker

Moral Rating: Better than Average
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Primary Audience: Family Kids
Genre: Romance Comedy Kids Family
Year of Release: 2005
USA Release: November 23, 2005 (wide)
DVD: February 28, 2006
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Life Before Birth
Featuring Dennis Quaid, Rene Russo, James “Lil’JJ” Lewis, Linda Hunt, George Lopez
Director Raja Gosnell
Producer Robert Simonds
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“Rock The House! 18 kids. 2 families. 1 force of nature.”

Like most high school sweethearts, Frank and Helen broke up, drifted apart, and married other people. Fast-forward twenty five years, they have both been widowed and left with little hope of finding love again when a chance meeting in a restaurant rekindles their fondness for one another.

Helen is a free-spirited fashion designer while Frank is a straight-laced Admiral in the Coast Guard. They are living opposite lives, headed down completely different paths.

But there is one common denominator which makes their inevitable pairing both seemingly impossible and totally irresistible… He has eight children, and she has ten.

Another classic family flick has been resurrected and remodeled in this remake of the 1968 film starring Henry Fonda and Lucille Ball — Yours, Mine, and Ours.

We are introduced to the Beardsley family, a tight ship overseen by strict but soft-hearted Admiral Frank Beardsley (Dennis Quaid) and the North family, many of whom have been adopted from other countries, running amuck and receiving no discipline from their laid-back mother Helen North (Rene Russo).

When Frank and Helen each gather their children in their living rooms to announce that they have eloped, they are met with unyielding resistance from their separate broods. Determined to persevere in their goal to form one family, they purchase a huge lighthouse together, and structure meets chaos as the eighteen children move in.

After the initial clashes of personalities and lifestyles, the Beardsley children and the North kids just want their lives to go back to normal. With this thought in mind they all unite under one bond: “We have a common enemy that is greater, and it’s called ‘Mom and Dad’.”

As the posse of 18 carries out their many schemes against Frank and Helen’s marriage, they forget to dislike each other. But the plan that unwittingly brings their families together could ultimately tear them apart.

This new version deviates in many ways from the original, though the spirit of the film remains the same. Unlike most modern remakes, where plot changes are made in order to add political issues, sex, language, and/or violence to please today’s audiences, I was both surprised and pleased to find that was not true of this film.

Quaid and Russo are believable in their roles and have a chemistry on-screen that helps carry this story as we root for their loving relationship to prevail against the odds. The child actors are not all top-notch performers, but they are cute and amusing enough to draw genuine chuckles throughout the movie. Those who are a part of big families will find a special kinship with the characters as we watch the unique workings of a large, blended family.

The basic morals of the story are excellent. Unselfishness and putting family first are the themes. Unfortunately, the film is not entirely clean.

Sex: Sometime after they are married, there are two scenes in which Frank and Helen are shown in bed kissing. They are both clothed, and there is no gratuitous innuendo.

One of the older girls is caught at school passionately kissing a boy, which she knows will make one of her stepsisters jealous. I found this part of the story to be the most troubling from a moral standpoint, and while it was a minute subplot it is worth noting when considering taking children to see the movie.

Violence: There are no frightening scenes in the film, and only mild, “pie-in-the-face” style situations which children of any age would not find disturbing.

Profanity: Unusually sparse though sadly it is not nonexistent: One mild anatomical term and three religious exclamations.

While syrupy-sweet films of any genre are generally unsatisfying to most audiences, this unabashedly saccharine script is both refreshing and endearing. There are enough wacky, slapstick scenes to draw the audience into viewing it as a humorous fairy tale, and one wants to believe in the story enough that its lack of realism becomes irrelevant.

Although I did see a group of six teenagers get up and leave the theatre halfway through the showing, after hearing the cheers and applause from the audience I believe that this film is received just as it was intended—a light, heart-warming tale for the whole family.

Violence: Minor / Profanity: Mild / Sex/Nudity: Mild

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Viewer CommentsSend your comments
Positive—Great family film. Took my elementary-aged children to this film, and both kids (younger and older elementary ages) really enjoyed the film. The film is surprisingly clean with no bad puns, jokes, etc. It’s nice to see a nice clean family film made, with lots of laughter (and I mean lots). The kids have a good outlook on life, the parents to also, especially considering the circumstances. The most offensive part of the film was the wine drinking.
My Ratings: Excellent! / 4½
Steve, age 36
Positive—Being a big fan of the original I was really excited to see this movie. I thought that the movie was really funny and entertaining. I still thought the original was better though. But, isn’t that true with most movies?
My Ratings: Better than Average / 3
Sharon F., age 28
Positive—This movie was great! I found nothing offensive and is the perfect alternative to “Cheaper by the Dozen” (which I thought was inappropriate for my kids to see). Our whole family loved it!
My Ratings: Good / 4
Janice, age 45
Positive—I thought this movie was very cute. Plot moved along with the movie. Wasn’t too long. I don’t remember anything bad in it. The only thing I didn’t like, parents who re-marry should marry someone ALL the children like and get along with… if they can’t get along, then maybe you should wait and get married when the children are out of the house. But…(step down from soap box)…the movie was really cute. Had good laughs. My parents even bought the movie. I liked it.
My Ratings: Good / 4½
Angela, age 23
Neutral—This movie was fairly entertaining; I always love to watch children blend in being mischevious and creative. Being a former US Marine myself, I could relate to much of how the father in the store must have felt. My only problem with this movie is the example that the two adults, the two parents, gave to their children. To get married after spending one night together is simple ridiculous and irresponsible. In today’s society, divorce has really become the norm. So many people think their feelings for the other person are good enough to make the marriage work. Later, many of these people discover that these good feelings are not alwyas present as they expected, or these feelings are over-powered by negative feelings from conflicts over money, children, and various other sources that can make for a rocky marriage. The parents in this movie did exactly what many of us do not want our kids to do; they rushed into a marriage without thinking things through. The parents in the movie never stopped to ask: How will the kids be affected? What will be the manner for disciplining the children? What is unacceptable behavior in the home?

Sadly in many marriages, these things are not worked out before entering the marriage, so more often than not, these problems create such messes that the marriage is soon disolved. Other than the adults setting a bad example, the movie itself was funny. I took my daughter to watch it, and I made sure I mentioned to her that the two adults should not have gotten married. Believe me I will continue to explain marriage to her as she matures. All in all, funny movie, good clean fun, no inappropriate content for children—enjoy it.
My Ratings: Average / 3
Troy Mendez, age 31
Neutral—An okay remake that’s been updated to fit the times. The usual slapstick kind of humor that kid’s love and parents endure to see a show with their kids. While the idea of the kids doing everything they can to sabatoge their parent’s marriage was a sad issue to me, it does redeem itself in the end. One comment however really jumped out at me in the film where it was stated that the parents were the enemy. Even though that worked itself out, the comment really stayed with me. The reviewers comment on the teen girl kissing with a boy just to get to her sister also entered my mind, but then the offended sister redeems the situation later and a lesson is learned. All in all a good laugh for a family, if you’re the type of family who discusses movies after they are watched.
My Ratings: Better than Average / 3
Susanne, age 45
Negative—I am amazed at how many people find nothing wrong with this movie that is targeted for our children. This movie is steeped in secular humanist philosophy, and although most adults could watch it with no problem, I would have a serious issue with my children seeing it. The theme of divorce runs rampant through the movie, reflecting the world’s current attitude of “Oh, I made a mistake, let’s get a divorce.” The last time I checked, divorce was still condemned in the Bible. Also, the dad is made to look like some horrible person for “spanking” his kids out of love and concern for their character. Yet the Bible teaches that a parent who “spares the rod hates the child” and God himself “chastens” those who He loves. I was also appalled by the mother and her attitude and lifestyle. So much for God’s command to “let all things be done decently and in order.” If you want your children to grow up on the foundation of the world instead of the Bible, I would recommend this movie and others just like it. Parents, don’t just consider what “objectionable material” a movie might have in it. Consider what attitudes and philosophies are being drilled into impressionable young minds also.
My Ratings: Offensive / 3
Dawn, age 23
Negative—I really appreciate movies being made about large families, it’s so rare. But I have to take a few issues with this one! In the original Lucile Ball plays the mother of 10, and is glad to have had 10 children from natural childbirth. In the new movie, the mom only has 4, and then adopts 6 more. In today’s society a woman who has a big family is usually looked down upon. (If you don’t believe me, ask a mom of 6 or more!) So this mom had to adopt, because it’s so much more of a “good thing” to adopt, than to have them on your own! The dad, before he meets his first love; (They met in high school and fell in love, although they never really explain why they didn’t get married in the first place!) the dad is a great dad. He really seems to care for them, but he raises them with discipline, and a lot of love. Whenever he is shown talking to his kids, he’s always light hearted, that is until he marries the “out of control woman” and her CRAZY kids! As you can imagine, more than mayhem ensues.

The wife let’s her kids do whatever they want, and the dad feels like the parents should raise their children with love and discipline. She wants a divorce, and he wants to turn down a big promotion, so he can stay with his family more. But the dad is the one who is portrayed as being in the wrong, and he is the one that has to make all the compromise.

Even in the extra stuff, as the director is talking about the mom, he calls her a “new age” mom. She is! It’s just really sad to send the wrong message, and spend millions of dollars to do it. It’s really funny, in the interviews with the kids during the extra stuff, they are so cute, but you never get that impression during the movie! In fact, the writers even comment on how they did character development in the original script, but the powers that be wanted more action, so they cut all that out! That’s what the movie lacked most, character development!

Don’t be afraid to make a heart warming movie, it’s OK. Even “Home Alone” was more touching than this, and it wasn’t supposed to be! Slow down, think about the future, it’s worth investing in our kids; it’s worth sending the right message. I know I’d pay to see it! Don’t waste your money on this one, it isn’t very good! If someone gave it to me, I’d sell it!
My Ratings: Average / 2
Tim Stromer, age 39
Negative—there was a kegger and the children were not a bit respectful
My Ratings: Offensive / 3
Jack Thornton, age 49
Comments from young people
Positive—I really liked this movie! It was very sweet and definitely portrays the chaos of a mixed family! The acting was great… I’m always surprised when I see little kids with excellent acting skills! There wasn’t anything objectional that I noticed; no sex, language, violence, drugs. There was a scene where kegs were present, but it became evident that the kids were innocent. All in all it was a great movie, and I actually recommended it to my parents! That doesn’t happen very often with movies these days!
My Ratings: Good / 4
Brittany, age 17
Positive—My two friends and I watched this movie. I didn’t like the fact that she didn’t spank or discipline her kids; other than that it was a cute fim.
My Ratings: Better than Average / 4
Aleshia Horner, age 17
Positive—I really enjoyed seeing this movie! The only thing, however, is that Frank, in the beginning of the movie, said another word for “upset.” Oh, and the fact that the storyline is completely different than the original. But don’t get me wrong, I loved how they changed it around! It is a very cute way of telling the story. I was really satisfied all in all about seeing the film. In my opinion, it was worth my time and this movie is one that I will want to watch over and over again!
My Ratings: Better than Average / 4
Amy G., age 14
Positive—My family and I agreed that this was a very good and enjoyable movie. There was a few bad words, but they were never used repeatitivly. I would say this movie was good for young kids up to grandparents. Unless you’re a stubborn teen who thinks movies like this are childish.
My Ratings: Good / 4½
Vicky G., age 14
Positive—Very good movie. Nothing was really offensive to me. Movies are not like this anymore.
My Ratings: Excellent! / 5
cody, age 10
Positive—This movie was pretty good. It’s a great family film for all ages! I have seen the original one, and this movie is definitely different, but the movie is still good. It’s a very cute film with good acting. There were a few things that could have been left out like the mom and some of the kids said God’s name in vain a few times. Also, there were a couple of curse words here and there. And the kids seem to be mean to each other but not overally mean. There were many funny parts. So overall this movie was good.
My Ratings: Better than Average / 4
Carolyn, age 12