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Every Man’s Battle

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Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time

the challenge every man faces… the fight every man can win

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From the television to the Internet, print media to videos, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations…but, thankfully, not impossible to rise above them. Shattering the perception that men are unable to control their thought lives and roving eyes, Every Man’s Battle shares the stories of dozens who have escaped the trap of sexual immorality and presents a practical, detailed plan for any man who desires sexual purity-perfect for men who have fallen in the past, those who want to remain strong today, and all who want to overcome temptation in the future.

Male sexual purity is not only critical to sexual oneness, it is an essential component of spiritual and emotional wholeness. Husbands who desire to achieve true intimacy in marriage will appreciate Every Man’s Battle, which provides a practical, detailed plan for pursuing sexual integrity, one of the crucial elements in winning the heart of a woman.

Includes a special section for women, designed to help them understand and support the men they love.

About the Authors

Stephen Arterburn is founder and chairman of New Life Clinics, host of the daily “New Life Live!” national radio program, creator of the Women of Faith Conferences, a nationally known speaker and licensed minister, and the best-selling author of more than two dozen books. He resides with his family in Laguna Beach, California.

Fred Stoeker regularly writes and speaks to men about the subject of sexual purity and works with “restoration teams” set up to restore pastors to the ministry after they’ve repented of adultery. He is a lay minister and conference speaker who has counseled hundreds of couples in how to connect in intimate relationships with their spouses. Fred and his wife, Brenda, live in the Des Moines, Iowa, area with their four children.

Endorsements

“There is no more common enemy of true manhood than the diversion or the perversion of our sexual capacities. I welcome every contribution to the arsenal of resistance.”
—Jack W. Hayford, Litt.D., pastor of The Church on the Way and president of The King’s Seminary

“The vulnerable, honest, and insightful pages of this book reveal what every man must know.”
—Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

“Clear, practical principles for sexual purity…a call for courage, commitment, and self-discipline.”
—Dr. John C. Maxwell, founder of The INJOY Group

“Read with an open heart, Every Man’s Battle may save your marriage and your witness.”
—Dr. Gary Rosberg, president of America’s Family Coaches author of Guard Your Heart and The Five Love Needs of Men and Women

Recommended by Focus on the Family

Note from author Fred Stoeker

Every Man’s Battle is for both men and women. As a man, have you ever said in frustration, “I just can’t get free of this sexual sin! Since I’m a man, I guess I’m just doomed to live this way.” Or, if a woman, have you ever asked, “Why is it that my husband seems to think about sex so much more than I do?” Or, “If sex is so natural, why is it that I’ve been married 15 years and still have no real sexual intimacy with my husband?”

Steven Arterburn and I have written this book to open the understanding of both men and women to their created differences, and how these differences impact their lives sexually. This book was written as a weapon against male sexual impurity. When I personally fought this battle, there were no books to be found on the topic. Even now, there are few books in the Christian arena on sexual impurity, and those that exist generally have little more than a single chapter devoted to “getting free”. Every Man’s Battle devotes at least 7 chapters to the practical details necessary for total and lasting victory. [more] »

You’ve read enough books and heard enough sermons telling you to (1) admit your sin, (2) repent of your sin, and (3) pray. You’ve admitted, repented and prayed countless times, yet remained stuck in the same quagmire, just as I did. You need more. This book offers more.

You see, sexual sin is not just a spiritual problem. It is a physical one as well, and the Bible confirms this by claiming that sexual sin is a sin against your own body. So, your battle must be fought on both a spiritual and physical level. Admitting, repenting and praying take care of the spiritual aspects of the battle, but do not fully address the intense warfare between the flesh and the spirit, nor the sexual habits rooted so deeply in your mind and flesh. Every Man’s Battle approaches the problem on both levels, allowing freedom to come quickly.

Women, you’ll find this book shocking. Men are wired so differently sexually that you’ll find it hard to believe. My own wife recently said, “Sometimes it still seems like this is all made up, like all you men have gotten together and decided that if you all stick to the same story, the women will have to believe you and will have to give you what you want. It is all so different from my experience that it seems like this must be some big conspiracy to fake us out.” Well, it is not a conspiracy. It is true. The women’s section includes many other honest comments from my wife and other women that help you process what you learn.

While I didn’t originally plan a women’s section, early readers have been grateful. And, men have been so pleased with how the book describes the male “sexual wiring” that they are insisting that their wives read the book as well, hoping that the full understanding brings full intimacy for both of them.

Men, Steve and I tell our stories of our own bondage in Chapter One, and spend the rest of the book sharing the details of our escape. May you read this book, and then begin sharing the story of your own escape. God bless you as you fight!