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The Proposal

also known as “A Proposta,” “I protasi,” “Odottamaton ehdotus,” “Selbst ist die Brau,” “Предложение”
MPA Rating: PG-13-Rating (MPA) for sexual content, nudity and language.

Reviewed by: Angela Bowman

Extremely Offensive
Moviemaking Quality:

Primary Audience:
Adults, Teens
Romance, Comedy
1 hr. 47 min.
Year of Release:
USA Release:
June 19, 2009 (wide—2,950 theaters)
DVD: October 13, 2009
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Marriage in the Bible

What is true love and how do you know when you have found it? Answer

NUDITY—Why are humans supposed to wear clothes? Answer

Sex, Love & Relationships
Learn how to make your love the best it can be. Discover biblical answers to questions about sex, marriage, sexual addictions, and more.
Featuring Sandra Bullock, Ryan Reynolds, Mary Steenburgen, Malin Akerman, Craig T. Nelson, Betty White, Denis O'Hare, Oscar Nuñez, Aasif Mandvi, Michael Nouri, Michael Mosley, Dale Place, Alicia Hunt, Alexis R. Garcia, Kortney Adams, Chris Whitney, Jerell Lee Wesley, Gregg Edelman, Phyllis Kay, Kate Lacey, Gene Fleming, Mary Linda Rapelye, Anne Fletcher, B. Johnson
Director Anne Fletcher
Producer Kurtzman/Orci, Mandeville Films, Touchstone Pictures, Kristin Burr, David Hoberman, Alex Kurtzman, Todd Lieberman, Mary McLaglen, Roberto Orci
Distributor Walt Disney Pictures

“Here comes the bribe…”

“The Proposal” is a romantic comedy, intended to be heartwarming, hilarious and classically cliché. And while it certainly delivered on the laughs, at some points so much so that the dialogue was drowned out by the roaring laughter of the audience, and even had a few tear-jerking scenes, I walked away more disgusted with each passing moment as these brief instances were forgotten leaving the crude and vulgar sexuality that dominated the film illuminated in mind.

Margaret Tate (played by Sandra Bullock) is a daunting and vicious New York executive who discovers she is about to be deported back to her native Canada. Desperate to maintain her position and save face within the company, she reveals that she is engaged to her assistant, Andrew Paxton (Ryan Reynolds), who is a U.S. citizen, and their marriage will resolve the deportation issue. The problem is that not only is this completely untrue, but Andrew in fact despises her, only answering her every bidding in the hopes of being justly rewarded with a promotion. As it turns out, the immigration process is not so simple as their assigned officer is out to prove their fraud, intent on a full investigation. The two come to a mutual agreement so they will both benefit from the marriage, but have to travel to Alaska to convince both his family and the skeptical immigration officer that they are truly in love. And as far as the storyline goes, it continues on a predictable course, as most movies of this genre generally do, as is the reason they are generally enjoyable.

While I haven’t seen all of Sandra Bullock’s films, I have to say that I had a higher expectation of her, as it does seem that she is known for her modesty. So I was extremely disappointed that she chose to go so far in this film. In a particular scene, her character Margaret has just finished showering and is in search of a towel. Meanwhile, Andrew is undressing, preparing to take a shower himself, neither realizing the other’s presence until they run into each other and fall down together, both completely naked and shown in side view. While all of their private areas are technically covered, this is still a gratuitous display, and in the moments prior to this incident, Margaret is shown in length with only her arm to cover her breasts and a small cloth mitt held in front of her groin.

In another scene, Andrew’s mother, Grace (Mary Steenburgen) and his grandmother Annie (Betty White) hire Ramone, an exotic dancer for Margaret. Ramone is not only the exotic dancer, he is the wait staff, sales clerk and marriage officiant of the town as well, and while intended to be comical rather than arousing, this scene nonetheless contains a man in a skimpy Speedo, gyrating in vulgar sexual positions around Margaret. And due to the length of the scene and the focus of the camera, was equally as horrifying an experience as the previously mentioned one.

Additional sexual content abounds, including the fact that Margaret and Andrew are assumed to be having sex so Andrew’s parents put them in a room together and Grandma Annie gives them a quilt with “special powers” which she calls the “baby maker,” this quilt is also referred to again later in the story. Grandma Annie also admits to being “knocked up” prior to her wedding as well as being “chesty” during a scene focused on Margaret’s breasts while altering the heirloom wedding dress in which Grandma Annie is on an “Easter egg hunt” trying to find Margaret’s breast in the large expanse of fabric that is unfilled by Margaret’s figure. Andrew’s parents bring the couple breakfast in bed, requiring them to jump into bed together (Andrew had been sleeping on the floor) but they have a difficult time arranging themselves after Margaret’s suggestion to “spoon” reveals that Andrew is “horny.”

Other negatives include Andrew grabbing Margaret’s behind on two occasions, the second one causing Margaret to threaten to cut off his balls. After the nude scenes, it seems almost irrelevant to mention the skimpy lingerie-type pajamas that Margaret wears to bed as they are quite modest in contrast. Margaret shares that she hasn’t had sex in eighteen months. There is a question about favored position (top or bottom) as well as an obscure reference to homosexuality in an office mate. Margaret is referred to as a “witch” as well as a “b-tch” and “Satan’s mistress.” Andrew is asked if Margaret “farts,” and they have a small argument over whether or not she does. I also found the fact that Ramone is both the exotic dancer and marriage officiant to be possibly offensive because of the seriousness of the marriage covenant and that it could have implied a pastoral role, especially as his legal status is questioned in the end which would give reason to believe he is not a Justice of the Peace.

Offensive language includes numerous uses of “oh my G--,” as well as “for the love of G--” and misuse of Jesus and Christ directly in addition to “sh-t,” “b-tch,” “cr-p,” “'p-ssed,” “jack-ss,” “-ss” and “balls;” the last two also used numerous times in a song/chant in which Margaret is dancing provocatively.

The spirituality is brought in from Grandma Annie’s type of Native American inspired beliefs in her reference to the ‘special powers’ of the quilt, the ‘spirits’ taking her upon death, ‘signs’ from the universe and a ceremony/ritual dance around a fire in tribal apparel in which she gives thanks to ‘mother Earth’ and asks for Margaret’s loins to be fertile.

As there was so much negative content I was tempted to skim over the bulk of it, simply recommending this film not fit for Christian consumption, however I also realize that each person has their own level of conviction and what they personally find offensive or distasteful so I felt it was important to convey not only the amount of negativity, but the extent of the content as well. And it’s too bad that after all that, there was hardly room to delve into the meatier parts of the story, in the conflict between Andrew and his father (Craig T. Nelson) that caused Andrew to isolate himself from his family and that prevented him from forgiving his father, or the tragic past of Margaret which propelled her into this callous and unemotional person. We obtain just enough to glimpse the person trapped inside so much ice with Margaret and the “reconciliation” between Andrew and his father was simply pitiful and unconvincing. As far as the actual “romance” between Margaret and Andrew, it appeared to be more lust from physical attraction than love toward the character that drives the two together, which makes one wonder if the creators of this story have lust and love confused.

While “The Proposal” makes the point of this particular fraudulent marriage being wrong, it does so by focusing on the wrong in the hurt and deception of Andrew’s family and Andrew himself in that it is potentially keeping him from his true love. These are noble causes, however without a higher purpose, it leads one to believe the marriage of convenience and a subsequent “quickie divorce” would have been acceptable had Andrew no family or long lost love to be accountable to. In the world’s eyes, marriage is not a sacred vow and covenant made before God, and according to this film, apparently, marriage itself really has no meaning. The fact that the concern of the feelings of others is the emphasis rather than the actual sanctity of marriage, and that marriage itself is never held in regard of any kind, and further degraded by the fact that the exotic dancer is the officiant in place of a priest or pastor is a sad reality of the current popular view, not only of marriage, but of God and of godliness. This is confirmed by the gloomy outlook held by characters at the end of the film. Andrew asking Margaret to marry him so he can date her, both admitting to being scared and obviously not ready to make such a somber and serious commitment, while on the surface may appear to be “cute” is at the same time repeating this underlying current of the irrelevancy of marriage. Also a comment made by Ramone, who tells the immigration officer that he wouldn’t say the two are soul mates, but at least they won’t kill each other. (The last part of this line I have to admit initially made me laugh along with everyone else, but thinking about it combined with the context of the previous and the rest of the movie truly dissolves any humor.) The problem is when you take an honest look at what you’ve just swallowed after watching this film, I’m afraid “The Proposal” isn’t at all worth the laughs and just leaves one feeling empty and dirty in the end.

I believe Paul summed it up very clearly in Ephesians,

“So I tell you this… that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more. You however did not come to know Christ that way… You were taught with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.” (Ephesians 4:17-24 NIV)

Violence: None / Profanity: Moderate / Sex/Nudity: Heavy

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Positive—My husband and I enjoyed this movie. Considering the movies that are being produced today, we felt it was pretty clean. There was some bad language and I agree with some of what the reviewer said in respect to the dance, but we were not offended as much as she was (in its entirety). I disagree that it left you feeling dirty. It was a fun movie and hysterical. We thought it was a great date movie and that the actors did a great job. The kissing scene was sweet and convincing not overly passionate or out of line. I recently read an article that the actors were friends in real life and spent time together with their spouses. I was impressed to see their kiss was not open mouthed and that they had fun making the movie. I believe you can find something negative in everything so if you are easily offended then don’t see it. We thought it was a great date movie and will recommend it to our friends.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Better than Average / Moviemaking quality: 5
Donna, age 40 (USA)
Positive—I did not find this to be a terribly offensive movie, although it had many elements that were not moral. The intention of the story was not immoral—illegal yes, but not immoral. The two main characters did not fornicate. Yes, there were accidents of a sexual nature, but they were presented as such. I did not care for the grandmother’s evoking of spirits and praying to mother nature. The male dancer was expressive of the sad world we live in, but it was clear that Margaret neither wanted this special event that had been organized for her nor liked it. She also was upset with the nude run-in with Andrew. Sandra Bullock’s character was pivotal. She was a severe business woman who had covered up her wounded nature and married her job. As she revealed her heart, Andrew began to love her. This movie worked for me.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Average / Moviemaking quality: 3½
Halyna Barannik, age 63 (USA)
Positive—I like that this movie is pretty darn clean, despite the reviewers meticulous scrutiny. Yes, there is a chippendales-esque dance number and a crash collision of two naked bodies, but in all honesty, neither scene is offensive. It’s purely for humorous effect, and it’s deftly handled in what I consider a very non-licentious way, unless you’re 60 and like 50 year old men prancing around like Chris Farley off SNL. I trust you, the discerning viewer, can be the judge of all that mess. I dare you to watch 'The Proposal.'

The potent combination of the film’s talents, solid script, and its generally wholesome 100 minutes are what make “The Proposal” gel together. Here you have a tale about family, togetherness, mutual dependency, trust, genuine affection and selflessness, defending your woman, mistakes, hurt, and steely resolve. Watch it… standing… like a man… or kneeling… as… a humble one. Or just sitting in your weathered theater chair. I think it’s safe to label this a romantic dramedy. The trailer is your synopsis. Check it out; it bears great resemblance to the actual 1 2/3 hour product… and perhaps “Green Card” from 20 years ago (Gérard Depardieu, Andie MacDowell).

Segue: The main review is in need of a fair rebuttal on two points. First, in Ryan Reynolds' character’s defense, he admits to just waking up in the spooning scene. While the main reviewer is right in her description of the events, I believe the connotation of the word “horny” doesn’t exactly encapsulate the cause or effect of said scene. Being a guy myself, I’ll be the one to say it, as squirrelly as it may sound. It HAPPENS. I’m sorry. You’re not a dude. Show a little open-mindedness. I know it’s fiction, but still.

Secondly, I think the remark on lust vs. love in the case of the protagonists is sorely misplaced. I do believe in the potential, the real possibility of meeting one’s mate—and KNOWING it—within a few days' time. My God-fearing parents first come to mind. If you read the Word, Isaac and his wife Rebekah are classic examples! Abraham’s servant—ANOTHER PERSON—was sent to fetch a stranger for his son Isaac. Sure God intervened on behalf of the servant when he asked the Lord for insight, but still. The scripture says after completing the journey, the servant filled Isaac in on all that transpired, and then what does it say??? Isaac took Rebekah into his momma’s tent, they consummated their marriage, and “So she became his wife, and he LOVED her.” The same can be said of this movie’s fictional couple. All throughout the movie, you as the viewer, witness the rapid transformation in Reynolds' and Bullock’s shared dynamic. It progress from the awkward, often hateful, and forced coexistence of their being boss and underboss to that of genuine care and respect for one another. Furthermore, they act HONORABLY the entire time they parade around in their charade. Towards the end, they openly express they’re scared, aloud, to one another, knowing full well their past history of standoffish battles and bitter discord. Still they were willing to give their pretend marriage a real go, as sealed by their own mouths' confession of being scared. No main reviewer, I don’t think this story was a convoluted portrait of lust, but rather a portrayal of proactive love.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Average / Moviemaking quality: 4½
Keenum, age 23 (USA)
Positive—In defense of the main review, I believe she did a very thorough job in reviewing this movie. While I do not completely agree with everything, it pretty much hits the target. One person commented that this movie is wholesome, it is far from that. From the rating alone, one can see it is not wholesome. “Nudity and sexual content” in a film will rarely, if ever, be truly wholesome. Just because the stripper was done for comedic value does not make it right. The main reviewer does mention that it was probably not meant for arousal, but still vulgar. I completely agree with this. The guy kept shaking his crotch near Bullock’s face while the camera zoomed in close enough for the audience to see his pubic hair.

As for the nudity, yes, Reynolds and Bullock’s characters were embarrassed and acted correctly by correctly covering themselves up. However, one might forget that the true danger is that we are seeing two actual people naked on camera for quite a while. It does not matter if the “characters” acted nobly. In essence, two REAL people are naked; both of whom are attractive. The scene is very vivid and truly pushed the boundary of its PG-13 rating. It’s a shame that this movie contained high amounts of crudeness because Bullock and Reynolds characters’ growth into loving each other was believable and sweet. It was refreshing that they did not fornicate. It also had good themes about how great it is to have a family and to not be alone. However, the aforementioned offenses make this movie better skipped.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Very Offensive / Moviemaking quality: 4
Maria, age 22 (USA)
Positive—I went to see this movie with my boyfriend and thought it was a classic “Sandra Movie.” It was hilarious! We laughed so hard we cried. I wouldn’t deem this movie as offensive. The sexual content was not so much “nasty” as it was awkward. The running-into-each-other-naked scene was funny, but they could’ve been way more discreet. Even though it didn’t actually show anything, the scene didn’t leave much for the imagination. The male dancer made you feel uncomfortable for the character because she was uncomfortable. She had no idea nor did she want her “special dance.” I thought the grandma was funny. I in no way agree with praying to mother Earth, but her character was very comical and not nasty at all. Overall, this was a great movie. Compared to a lot of other movies this one was clean for the most part and a fun date movie. I don’t recommend taking younger children though. Sandra Bullock and Ryan Reynolds were terrific!
My Ratings: Moral rating: Better than Average / Moviemaking quality: 5
Alexa, age 19 (USA)
Positive—I am a Christian and a mother of two daughters, 14 and 12, so I always consider the positive/negative aspects of films, and read reviews, before even thinking about allowing my daughters to see them. In this case, I didn’t read the reviews before going to see the movie, but rather my husband and I saw it on our own first. To think that, if I had read this review first, I probably would have avoided this adorable movie altogether! It was a wonderfully funny, warm hearted, tender and compassionate movie! Yes, there were some mildly offensive scenes, as the writer explained, and even some partial nudity, but NONE of it was blatantly sexual. In fact, it was meant to be just the opposite, and was in fact, hilariously UN-sexy. I think PG-13 (I think 12 is too young) is an appropriate age rating, and it opens up topics for discussion with teens—we need to be able to discuss what is right and wrong with the way people live, and compare it to how we as believers should live, not live in a bubble.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Average / Moviemaking quality: 4½
Teresa, age 44 (USA)
Positive—I really enjoyed this movie. I was looking for an evening out away from my three small children to escape into a mindless romantic comedy. What I didn’t expect was the beautiful portrayal of family. I thought there was a wonderful message we can take from this film—that Sandra’s hard nosed unfeeling workaholic character was deeply moved in the presence of kindness, and it ultimately melted her hard exterior and left her vulnerable. I think this is such a wonderful message for Christians. It makes me think of “and they’ll know we are Christians by our LOVE.”

I didn’t get the feeling that bizarre spirit worship was being thrust down my throat. In fact, the movie kind of made a mockery of what to some people is their personal faith. I, also, wasn’t bothered by the partial nudity. It wasn’t sexualized, and frankly, not much different than being in the locker room after working out. Overall, in my opinion it was mild for PG-13, so I guess if you’re easily offended or conservative in your movie viewing, than this is a no brainer for you. But if you are remotely open, than don’t be scared off by the negative reviews. I think the discerning viewer can easily sift through the negative in this film, and take something away from it that is worthwhile.

Oh, as for the dance scene. Ok, what’s with the reference to pubic hair? The man was I’m thinking supposed to be Mexican, and was pretty hairy all over, so I don’t think I could’ve made that distinction. He’s in a speedo, and he’s hairy. Hairy legs, hairy tummy, very hairy. It’s supposed to make you go “OH GROSS.” While it’s kind of bizarre and meant to be shocking, it didn’t leave me feeling dirty. It did bring back fond memories of Chris Farley and Patrick Sweazy’s SNL dance off. Personally, I was more offended by the very long review by the person who didn’t see the movie than I was by the movie itself. I don’t expect non christian movies, made by non christians, starring non christians to be Christian. I also don’t want to sin by watching filth. This movie was not that for me.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Average / Moviemaking quality: 4
JB, age 33 (USA)
Positive—Being a big fan of Sandra Bullock I went to see this movie against the recommendations of this Web site. I know there are different levels of sensitivity in Christians and I tend to be pretty conservative. The movie was uplifting and refreshing. Yes, the strip tease scene was outrageous and not necessary… but you could tell how uncomfortable she was in the scene and I could relate to being placed in a similar position and not knowing how to gracefully get out of it.

I liked watching a person who has been hardened by her circumstances become a changed individual through exposure to the love of a family. It shows that our walks in life can impact others. As for the ritualistic dancing, they lived in Alaska which has a huge influence from Native American beliefs. We should respect the rights of others to worship how they see fit. It wasn’t promoting this as the only true religion, it was showing that this was her way of showing thanks.

I liked the movie and think it was cleaner than most movies that have come out recently. The language could have been cleaned up and the film would have been better. In addition…the bird scene was distracting and unbelievable.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Better than Average / Moviemaking quality: 4
Janet, age 48 (USA)
Positive—I can see why the author of the review takes the stance that she does, this is not a Christian movie. However, I’m not as tightly wound (although I used to be…). I even read this review before I went to see it (at the cheap seats, so no huge money lost if I didn’t like it) so I had initial reservations. I liked the movie! It makes a great mature chick flick, even though I think there’s enough beauty to hold the attention of males/dates. I do not, however, think this movie is for children or teens. I think Discernment is the filter with which to view this movie, and for those who are pretty selective and conservative, this may not be the movie for you. It is a more fleshly and worldly than say, “You’ve Got Mail.” Sandra Bullock is a beautiful woman. She has aged well and encourages me to take better care of myself. So, there is value in the flick. God bless you!
My Ratings: Moral rating: Better than Average / Moviemaking quality: 4
PEG, age 45 (Canada)
Positive—I like Bullock movies and this was no exception. I would not recommend it for children, mostly because it would bore them to death. I didn’t see anything offensive as a Christian. I didn’t see any real messages in it either.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Average / Moviemaking quality: 3
Joe, age 61 (USA)
Positive—Me and my husband loved this movie. We are strong Christians and very careful about the movies we see. I went on this site and learned which scenes we were to shut our eyes since you can’t fast forward and there were only two scenes, everything else was adorable. It was very, very funny and very entertaining. I definitely couldn’t believe how unclothed she got and wasn’t happy about that, but from going on this site we knew to shut our eyes right when she was in the shower and for about 3 minutes afterwards and when the mother in law takes her to a strip club with this guy that was a total dork but he was still dancing, it was more of a joke then anything, but I still don’t like to see anything like that. So we shut our eyes during that part too. Overall, we loved it!
My Ratings: Moral rating: Good / Moviemaking quality: 4½
Samantha, age 34 (USA)
Positive—If you saw the preview, then you have seen the “bad” parts of the movie: the scene where Andrew and Margaret run into each other naked and the wedding dress “easter egg” hunt. Both were used in non-sexual, strictly for laughs kind of thing. In fact, the relationship between Andrew and Margaret developed so late into the movie that the most that they did together was kiss. Overall, I loved the movie and the acting and laughed continuously. A million times better than the “hilarious,” yet extremely crude, movies like “The Hangover.” I would recommend this for anyone mature enough to understand relationships.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Average / Moviemaking quality: 4
Kelly, age 18 (USA)
Positive—I rented this movie, and I happened to really like it. I chose the moral rating “offensive” only due to the language in the film. Mostly, the comments that Andrew’s grand mother made bothered me because many of them were sexual comments. Even though the film has “nudity” in it, I was not offended because you don’t see anything from either person. What happens in that scene is that she’s in the shower, and didn’t remember to get a towel. Once she remembers to get a towel, she walks out of the bathroom covering herself with her hands and a small washcloth or something. During this time, Andrew walks in the room (after being outside doing some work) because he is going to take a shower (it is implied that he is nude), but he doesn’t know that Margaret is in the shower because he is listening to music and has earphones in. Because of that, the 2 accidentally run into each other and they fall down. Still, all during this, I never saw any nudity. If you want to call seeing someone’s back nudity, then yes, there is nudity in the film. I suppose some would be offended by this, and if you are, then please be aware that the scene is in the film, stop it and fast-forward if you don’t want to watch that part.

I thought the ending was cute, and overall, I really enjoyed the story. There was one thing that I didn’t like apart from the grand mother’s sexual comments, and that is the scene when she is out in the woods chanting. That was a bit odd, and I feel…had nothing to do with the story. It’s a chick-flick film, so if you like that kind of thing, this is a good one!
My Ratings: Moral rating: Offensive / Moviemaking quality: 4
Sarah, age 26 (USA)
Positive—I did enjoy this movie… it made me laugh and it was sweet. Now, would I own this movie? No. It had too much language, for one, and a few scenes that I didn’t think needed to be in there. Some of those scenes were funny, but not needed. Overall, the movie was like I said, cute and very funny. For sure not for kids under 13, and maybe a little over that, too. A movie to use discretion on. For adults, I think it’s a cute date movie.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Average / Moviemaking quality: 4
Sarah, age 18 (USA)
Neutral—I thought that the reviewer was fair and accurate. We have an 18 year old son and would not be thrilled to have him see this. It does not reinforce our values. The nudity added nothing of substance to the film; the humor of the situation could have been achieved without it. We were disappointed in Sandra Bullock for such scenes, since we appreciated her acting in other films. The film rating was PG-13. Hollywood might think, so but I doubt most parents would think this film appropriate for young teens. Apparently, some parents have no problem with it, since a 12 year old wrote on your site that she had seen it. We rarely go to the theater because of the price paid for other disappointing films. Still, my wife and I enjoyed much of this film. (Having said that, our moral POV has certainly been diluted by accepting evil by degrees.)
My Ratings: Moral rating: Offensive / Moviemaking quality: 4
Paul, age 55 (USA)
Neutral—Although I can see certain aspects of the movie as positive or negative, the movie was made as a humorous love story with Betty White being an old lady using her age and mental state to get her wishes. I would certainly not recommend this to anyone under the age of 17, despite its PG-13 rating, due to the partial nudity. In fact, I wouldn’t recommend it for unmarried couples, BUT, having said that, the movie was well-done, a good story line and is a good chick-flick for MARRIED couples to see.

It’s true that Hollywood has a distorted view when it comes to religion, family, and marriage and Betty White’s “religion” was so far out, I could only take it to be poking fun at some of the really weird ones around. Coming from a guy who has taken his wife to see many chick-flicks—I’m just glad everyone didn’t die or get maimed in a plane crash.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Average / Moviemaking quality: 3½
Terry, age 44 (USA)
Neutral—I went to see this movie with my roommates, and enjoyed it for the most part. I was disappointed that the grandmother in the movie did a couple of offensive things, such as chanting to “the spirits” and dancing with an “exotic” dancer. There is also a scene in which the two main characters accidentally see each other nude. However, I was impressed (especially with the immoral content of most movies these days) that the two main characters did not sleep together before marriage. There were also some good morals in the movie, such as the importance of honesty, not treating others as lower than yourself, and recognizing the importance of family and nurturing those relationships. Overall, I would say this movie is average, and it is pretty cute (although fairly predictable, like most romantic comedies!)
My Ratings: Moral rating: Average / Moviemaking quality: 4
Nicole, age 24 (USA)
Negative—While I have enjoyed Sandra Bullock movies in the past, this one was disappointing. There were moments that the movie was funny, but the scene with the male dancer was a turn off. Betty White and her spiritual scenes just reminded me as to how Hollywood does not have a clue concerning spiritual matters. It did not add a thing to the movie plot. Also, I was surprised that Bullock would appear in a movie naked. I have always had a feeling that she was above other actresses and did not need those type of scenes to be effective. The story line was interesting, but the sexuality was a turn off. I am not a prude, but would hope Hollywood would make a romance movie with some value and depth and not shallow as this one. I agree… it left me leaving the movie disappointed and dirty.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Offensive / Moviemaking quality: 3½
Jerry, age 61 (USA)
Negative—I went to the movies with some of my friends and we couldn’t decide whether to see this one or not, so we flipped a coin and it was heads-up for “The Proposal.” That probably wasn’t the best way to decide. First up, I did have a good time, I laughed, and I enjoyed certain parts. Like the part when Margaret is telling Andrew her odd little quirks, and they talk about the song and why she got her tattoo. And the end (not the part during the credits, but the actual end in the office). And, of course, Andrew’s face when Margaret announces their “engagement.”

It’s really too bad you can’t just buy certain scenes from movies, like buying songs on iTunes, because his face is absolutely priceless.

Now, the reasons why I did not like this movie:

#1: The grandmother’s chanting: It seems like there always is some weird religious practice or person in every single movie. Why does the grandma have to be into Indian mysticism and chant to Mother Earth and believe in spirits (which clearly are not angels, so what are they? Demons)? What does it add to the movie or plot? Zip, zero, nothing. The chanting only serves as an introduction for Margaret’s embarrassing little dance (reminiscent of one of the deleted scenes from “Miss Congeniality”). And it’s really sad, because this little old lady, who puts her trust in Mother Earth and spirits, is going to hell.

#2: The running-into-each-other-naked scene: Was it funny? Yes. Was it necessary to have Sandra Bullock and Ryan Reynolds running around without their clothes on? No!!! And it’s not really true that there’s no nudity in this film. Sure, you don’t actually see them completely naked from the front or back, but you do see them from the side. And Sandra Bullock, when she’s in the bathroom trying to escape from the dog, does cover herself up, but it’s hardly enough to even talk about. For all intents and purposes, she was naked.

#3: The male exotic dancer: Ha! More like revolting dancer. I didn’t actually reread the movie review before I saw it; I skimmed and missed/forgot the part about the strip tease. This part was not shown in the preview (funny how that usually happens) and let me say, it was horrifying! Disgusting, revolting, inappropriate, dirty, etc. I actually didn’t see much of the scene, but what I saw was enough. He was wearing a very skimpy thong (remember a certain article of clothing from “Legally Blonde”?) and did a dance (which I don’t believe any of the women in that bar could have found the least bit appealing) that reminds me of certain scenes from “13 Going on 30” and “Bride Wars.” Near the end of the movie, the stripper also ends up being the minister. Maybe he’s really just supposed to be the Justice of the Peace or something, but the whole thing just seemed like another slam against preachers of God’s Word. When I thought back over the movie the next day, my toes curled at the thought of Jesus sitting there with me in that theater (which He was).

To top it all off, the entire movie was littered with crude and sexual “jokes.” Did I laugh at some of them? I have to say yes. And actually, they weren’t a whole lot worse than the ones in “27 Dresses” or “Two Weeks Notice.” But, you know, Hollywood just doesn’t seem to get that people (and not just Christian people) actually do have normal conversations in which sex and body parts are never mentioned. And not everyone swears all of the time either.

So, do I recommend this movie? Heavens to Betsy, no! If you are a dyed-in-the-wool Sandra Bullock (or Ryan Reynolds) fan and you feel life will not be complete if you pass this one up, then when it comes out on DVD, borrow it from the library or a friend (you won’t waste money that way); remember to keep the channel changer and a pillow-to-bury-your-face-in handy. But do not expect another “While You Were Sleeping” or “The Lake House.” I know there are movies out there that are much worse, movies that make this one look squeaky clean, but does that mean we have to subject ourselves to even this much garbage? I love to watch movies (it’s kind of like a hobby) and I know it is almost impossible to watch anything that completely jives with what the Bible teaches. But still, some movies go too far, and for me, this one went too far. I wish there was a rating between R and PG-13, because I can’t imagine letting a 13-year-old watch this movie.

I would like to congratulate the people who were non-viewers of this movie. You did good! Knowing what I know now, if I could somehow go back to when we flipped the coin, and it was still heads up, would I have agreed to go? No! Going home and watching “Persuasion” would have been a much better option. I know for a fact there are no strippers cavorting about the screen.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Very Offensive / Moviemaking quality: 4
C., age 19 (USA)
Negative—This movie was a huge disappointment. I had seen the previews for several months, and I was looking forward to what seemed like a fun romantic comedy. I also usually enjoy Sandra Bullock’s films.

I agree with the original reviewer that this movie was filled with an unexpected (and unnecessary) amount of crude sexual humor and shocking nudity for a PG-13 film.

The shower scene in which Bullock is covered with only her arm across her chest and a small cloth on her lower “bikini area” was extremely offensive to me. The scene was not fleeting, but sustained, as she ran about searching for a towel and eventually bumping into and landing on top of her nude costar.

This was appalling and disgusting. There were children in the audience. I’m surprised at Bullock, and will be sure to check out any future movies of hers before viewing. I left this movie feeling dirty, and apologizing to God for not walking out sooner.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Extremely Offensive / Moviemaking quality: 3
Patricia, age 51 (USA)
Negative—Thank you for taking the time to post reviews about the movie. I was going to allow my 13 year old to see it, but have now changed my mind. We should always use the Word of God to discern whether something is acceptable. “They are from the world; therefore they speak from the world’s perspective and the world listens to them. We are from God; the person who knows God listens to us, but whoever is not from God does not listen to us. By this we know the Spirit of truth and the spirit of deceit” NETBible 1 John 4: 4-6. Don’t let the world cloud your judgment. Be careful in supporting ideas that the world deems appropriate, remember we are from God.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Offensive / Moviemaking quality: 3
Patricia, age 31 (USA)
Negative—It is disappointing that film makers are shoving political and anti-Christian agendas down our throats. My sister told me that everyone was telling her this was a hilarious movie and that we should go see it. I agree that it was humorous and probably could have been enjoyable entertainment without all of the offensive scenes and comments. For instance exotic dancer scene, continual cursing/using the Lord’s name, idolatry (showing rituals of worship to other than God—“Mother Nature”), etc. I usually look up the reviews on movies before I go to see them, but my sister is 71 and her friends were giving it an OK. Apparently, the general movie-going population is learning to overlook offensive material just so that they can have a few laughs. Christians should be able to enjoy the movies that they are paying to see. Rather than movie ratings, I wish Christians had their own theatres that show only “Safe and non offensive films.” Maybe the theatres could be called “King’s Theatre” or something to that effect.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Extremely Offensive / Moviemaking quality: 3
Rose, age 56 (USA)
Negative—I could not in good conscience recommend this movie to a fellow Christian. I chose to see this movie because the premise seemed cute, and the previews were amusing. If you’re considering this movie based on the previews, I would advise you not to waste your money, as everything “cute” was shown in the previews. The movie itself did not have much to offer.

Throughout the movie, there is a considerable amount of cursing and a surprising amount of nudity for a PG-13 film. Private parts were not revealed entirely, but enough to shock the viewer. Also, one character (who is also a waiter and the performer of wedding ceremonies) performs a highly offensive striptease at one point in the movie. Lastly, the grandmother of the family is obsessed with “spirits” and performs a ceremonial fertility dance around a bonfire. I would advise any fellow believer to stay away from this movie, as it will not leave you with a warm-fuzzy feeling. You’ll most likely walk away asking yourself why you went to see it in the first place.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Very Offensive / Moviemaking quality: 3
Kathleen, age 32 (USA)
Negative—I’m a Sandra B. fan, and this was by far the worst movie I’ve ever seen her in. The writing was BAD, the acting was BAD, everything was so contrived and so not funny. The most offensive part was the male exotic dancer—it just went on and on. Is anyone else as sick of strippers and exotic dancers in movies (and TV) for comic relief as I am?! And then there was Sandra’s nude scene—come on! So unnecessary and so icky when they ran into each other. There was no comedy in any of it and no reason for it other than for the guys to get a look at Sandra’s great body. I was embarrassed at just being there.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Very Offensive / Moviemaking quality: 1
Godmother, age 62 (USA)
p class="comment">Negative—I rented this movie, after being told by fellow Christians that it was a cute movie and they loved it. We had guests over for a birthday party when I put it in. The guests had already seen it. The guests were talking during the movie, so I didn’t really get a chance to fully watch the movie. About every five minutes, though, the guests would say, "You might want to fast forward this part, it’s not appropriate for the kids." or "You might want to mute this part, it’s not appropriate." About 1/3 through, I finally just turned it off. I was going to watch it with my husband later, but felt that if there were so many immoral scenes in it, then it’s not worth watching. So I decided to look up the Christian review on it, which I should have done before I rented it. After reading the review, even without the reviewer’s opinion, the immoral scenes and information about them is enough to prevent me from watching the film.

My husband and I both believe strongly that if it is not appropriate for children to watch, then it is not appropriate for us as Christians to watch. I suppose depending on your closeness with the Lord, and your seriousness about following His commandments, will determine your opinion whether the film as offensive or not. The Bible, which is the foundation of Christian’s beliefs, says, "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things." Philippians 4:8 (New International Version) Does this film fit this description? Would Paul watch this film? I think not. The problem with society today is that everyone is slowly and gradually accepting more and more immorality. There was a time in which kissing was forbidden on television. I wish those standards were still in existance.
Jouwhoo, age 29 (USA)
Comments from young people
Positive—I REALLY enjoyed this film! I laughed so much. The storyline is fun, the acting is great. Ryan Reynolds and Sandra Bullock are hilarious! And the scene with the puppy and the eagle… So funny! Morally… A few things, and wish the profanity was less. But… overall, for a PG-13 movie, this one is worth seeing. Definitely a chick-flick, BUT A FUN ONE of that. I think the reviewer was too harsh on it. I will be buying it when it it released on DVD.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Better than Average / Moviemaking quality: 4½
Emily, age 17 (USA)
Positive—I really enjoyed this film, and I agree that there are some unnecessary parts to this movie, however the amount of emphasis other viewers are making on the scene in which they were apparently naked, I find irrelevant. One question for you folks, do you ever go swimming? Cos you never saw anything less than you would of people at the pool, so I think this is not a valid point to make. Overall, I think this was quite a good film.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Better than Average / Moviemaking quality: 4
Steven, age 16 (United Kingdom)
Positive—…While the movie is not the most appropriate movie, it is quite good considering all the others there. If you cant deal with a little sexual comments and jokes, DON’T go to see a PG-13 movie. The movie is funny, sweet, and the plot line is creative. I felt the movie to be appropriate and almost modest for today’s movies. It could have been better, but, overall, a great movie. I wouldn’t discourage people to see it, unless extremely sensitive to mildly questionable material. I loved the movie…
My Ratings: Moral rating: Average / Moviemaking quality: 4
Stephanie, age 12 (USA)
Positive—I really don’t think this movie is as disturbing as the reviewer made it out to be, I thought it was pretty hilarious. It wasn’t a cheap humor film like The Hangover or The Ugly Truth and I would feel comfortable watching it with my parents. It was a cute movie!
My Ratings: Moral rating: Better than Average / Moviemaking quality: 4
Lindsey, age 17 (USA)
Neutral—This movie was ok. I went to see it with my Grandmother, mom, and 11 year old sister. My Grandmother loved it. My mom hated it. My sister kept on covering her eyes, just to make sure she didn’t see any naked people. I would be embarrassed to watch with my boyfriend. Just because of the stip dancer and the two main people running into each other naked. Sandra Bullock (probably spelled that wrong) was rude, bossy, and portrayed the typical, but, stupid image of "girls and tougher, smarter, and overall better than guys." It wasn’t really THAT bad of a movie though… but, there were some parts and I’d recommend being at least 13 to see. I, myself, didn’t particularly enjoy it.
My Ratings: Moral rating: Offensive / Moviemaking quality: 3
Heidi, age 16 (USA)
Comments from non-viewers
I won’t be seeing it because of its misleading packaging. Its too bad that many Christians deem the Disney name unquestionably “trustworthy,” According to Yahoo!, it is considered a Disney movie for the entire family. I’m hoping that God’s people will use a little more discernment before they pack the whole family up to see what is clearly a female romance, and should be labeled as such. Since when is PG-13 considered appropriate for the whole family? Never mind don’t answer that. Sure, teach purity to our children, but then let them see shows like this before they are old enough to morally process it, and then wonder why our “purity” discussions might not work… hmmmmm.
V, age 44 (USA)
(PLEASE READ) My fellow Christians come on… someone said that the camera shows a guy’s pubic hair. When are we going to stop settling for less and stop saying to ourselves that it’s just a movie, and that “it’s not that bad?” We are told to be not of the world… The people making these movies are of the world, and are therefore putting worldly things in them. Why do Christians put themselves in front of garbage? We need to stop trying to fulfill ourselves with entertainment. It’s obvious that entertainment is full of lies, perversions, immoralities, etc. Where does it read in the good book of the Lord that it is okay to be a part of these things? Please people, be honest with yourselves, spare yourselves from filling your minds with the nonsense, and seek God’s truth and ask him to guide you to his love and joy.

Discovering His love, grace, and the joy of His Holy Spirit will fulfill you beyond anything in the world. You won’t even want to see movies like this anymore when you find this joy. God didn’t create us just to be entertained. Entertainment should not be a priority, and when someone says, “oh, you have to see this movie!”, challenge them with the question why. Why do we have to watch the garbage out there? We don’t… You see, Satan uses the seeds planted in your mind by movies to work against you, thus bringing you farther away from the Lord. God’s Word is LIFE! What do you add to your life by watching a couple hours of acted fiction in a movie?… NOTHING!

God’s Word brings love, healing, joy, peace, etc., when applied with faith, and who doesn’t want these things? What would Jesus do? I am sad when I see “Christians” fitting in. What kind of example is that to the world? We only reinforce that those bad things are okay or that it is okay to see and hear certain things in movies when we as Christians take part in them. Those who say a movie like this doesn’t make you feel dirty simply are desensitized. Imagine if you were five and you saw this movie…you’d be shocked. Please Christians, I’m saying this because I care about each and everyone of you out there! That is a tiny grain of sand compared to how much God cares. We’re supposed to be leading the lost people away from stuff like these perverted movies… not joining them! Movies have a numbing effect to your spiritual senses, and over time, they begin to become a part of your personality. Notice how everyone talks about shows and movies and music and everything that you really wouldn’t care about if you were on your deathbed? Whatever happened to being real with people? We could all die tomorrow or Jesus could come back tomorrow, and we as Christians need to wake up to GOD’S REALITY! There’s more for our lives than what the world has to offer.

Being obedient to God means blessing for your lives. So, let’s not waste this time he’s given us. So many are consumed with the media and this culture in general. What if your best friend died the day after watching something so ridiculously stupid…you’d live with the wish that you had spent that last night having some real time with them. Through God’s ways we are to live in harmony, in love with one another, and the culture of this time is interfering with that… distracting us… distracting us from God’s Word and His truth.

Will this movie or these other offensive movies benefit your life, add more time to your life, matter to you one week from now, matter at the end of your life, MATTER IN ETERNITY?! God has more in store for us than we will ever know, and Jesus is waiting for you to take his hand and let him show your path. Think about it… God bless.
Phil, age 19 (USA)
I have a daughter who is about to turn 13 and I would never let her see this movie based on what I have read. I wouldn’t let a 16 year old see a movie like this. Incidentally, a woman I know saw this with her 18 year old daughter and told me it was rated R (she thought it was, based on the content.) I agree with another comment, come on people, it is time for Christians to say “enough!” to these kinds of movies. I believe movie-viewing is one thing that Christians let slide in their Christian walk. Just because it’s a popular movie with the crowds, or because it may have some very funny parts, doesn’t mean it is okay to watch.
Anne, age 42 (USA)
Thank you to those who have left comments on this movie. Because of the negative comments I have read I will not go and see this extremely offensive movie. I am still baffled when I hear Christians speak of movies like this in such a positive light. Why? Because Scripture is VERY clear about how we’re supposed to behave—setting no vile thing before our eyes (Psalm 101:3), being innocent about things that are evil (Romans 16:19). How can one who calls them a follower of Christ see movies like this and keep to Philippians 4:8 which says: Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.
Pamela, age 48 (USA)
How can Christians call nudity seen funny? It is wrong, immoral and I’m sure you would be thoroughly embarrassed to watch this movie or others like it if you had Jesus sitting right next to you. I hope you would be anyway. The whole reason to avoid those situations (movies, magazines, books, strip clubs, drawings whatever) is to HELP us to keep our minds and hearts pure. It may not have been a sexual nudity scene. But you know what?! Every male, even females these days, will see the partial nudity or accidental nudity scene and replay it in his mind for days to come… even years to come. A woman will see the scene(s) and compare herself to her body. I ask you, what good can come of that? To simply have a laugh or two? What will the end result be in your mind, to play it off as no big deal? That’s exactly what the Devil wants, is our minds, the more he gets to dull our senses the more he has won you over.
Ginny, age 31 (USA)
Thank you to the individual that gave that awesome critique of “The Proposal.” The majority of those that call themselves Christians believe that “THE JUDGMENT” before Jesus Christ will just be a formality-but it won’t. We will be standing as individuals before the spotless Lamb of God. It’s utterly ridiculous when believers of a different faith have more of an understanding of what’s moral, or right and wrong in comparison to those who actually have been washed in the blood of the lamb. HE WAS RIPPED TO SHREDS NOT SO THAT WE COULD BE LUKEWARM-trust me I’m convicted at my own speech. If “little taboos” are acceptable what exactly did he save us from? Lastly the example that we all learned in grade school about hot to cook a frog. You don’t throw it in hot scolding water, it will jump out the pot. You put it in lukewarm water and slowly turn up the heat. Where is our resistance? Where is our watchfulness? where is our dying daily?
CSA, age 28 (USA)